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I had a heat stroke a couple days ago so I’m not doing so well? I mean, I’m not in any danger but I need to recover. I’ll be back soon. Hopefully without this bullshit.

4 days ago - 11 notes - Reblog -
Anonymous: My dad's been studying psychology (actually wants to go into forensic psychology), and he knows that my appetite loss isn't a side effect of my medications (one of the side effects is actually weight gain—not weight loss). How can I explain to him that, most likely, it's due to the depression and anxiety disorder and that it's /not/ my fault? Because he says it is my fault.

Hopefully, just explaining your situation to him should be enough. Changes in appetite are pretty common with depression, so if he won’t just believe you, you could simply tell him to look it up. It’s a tried and tested fact.

Really, if he’s been studying psychology, he should reconsider his approach towards your problems as a whole, because blaming you doesn’t do anything but shame you for something you have no control over.

I hope your dad stops blaming you, anon. Best wishes and stay safe.

5 days ago - 6 notes - Reblog -
Anonymous: How do I ask for help with my depression?

Try checking out this post to get some tips on how to ask a friend for help!

Roughly the same should apply for parents, with addition of asking to see a professional (if that’s what you want).

I hope that post helps some (I made it with you in mind)!

Best wishes.

5 days ago - 10 notes - Reblog -
How to Bring up your own Mental Health Issues with a Friend

Let me know if anything should be added/changed!

5 days ago - 64 notes - Reblog -
How to Talk to a Friend about their Mental Health Issues & Support them


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If you can think of anything else or have any corrections, please reply to this post or send me an ask!

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bobaenum: i'm starting high school in a week and honestly the nervous excitement is tearing me apart. my anxiety is triggered so much and i just want to sleep until the first day of school so i don't have to deal with the anticipation. what can i do to calm myself down or occupy my time?

Hey there, I’m sorry to hear the anticipation is wearing you down so much!

Generally, I’d recommend things mentioned in this post to help keep your anxiety under control and things from this post to help keep you busy. What also really helps me is either sitting down to write something (try some roleplaying if you’re into that!) or going on a google hunt, where I pick out (for example) a certain movie and try to find out as much about it as I can without actually watching it. This article has some more ideas on how to cope with your current situation.

I’m sure things will be fine, friend. I hope school goes well!

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Anonymous: my mom died when i was 12 and no one ever asked if i was ok and no one ever talked about it. im trying to stop blaming my dad and sister and brother but it just gets harder. i feel like my brother abandoned me because after she died he moved out two months later. He never asked if i was ok and it hurts the most that he didn't talk to me or try to help me. i am 18 years old with depression and i want to talk to him about all this but i am so scared. i dont know why but i am terrified

Hi there, anon.

I’m really sorry to hear about your mother. Death in the family is never an easy thing to handle, especially not at a relatively young age like that. Having family that doesn’t try to ensure you’re doing okay only makes it worse.

First of all, I’d like to say that it’s okay for you to be disappointed in how your family handled the situation. It’s okay to wish they would’ve done things differently. Of course, you do also have to acknowledge that they were dealing with the same grief as you, though. Everybody had to deal with this situation in their own way - unfortunately that sometimes makes it hard to look out for others.

Talking to your brother is a big step, being scared is normal. But if you think this is the right thing for you and that it could help you be more at peace, please do so. Make sure you do it in a situation that makes you feel comfortable. There is no rush. You can do it, sooner or later. Hopefully, your brother will understand, since he might’ve even felt something similar.

Best wishes, anon. I hope this works out for you.

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Anonymous: I love someone who lives so far away and i dont know what to do

I’m afraid I’m not quite sure what the problem here is, anon.

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for over 1 1/2 years now - and my second long distance relationship as is. Talk to the person - if the feeling is mutual or they want some form of relationship, I’m sure the two of you can work something out.

Long distance can be hard - but it’s also potentially very fulfilling, as it is much easier to get the space one might need. With the internet being what it is, staying in contact and seeing each other isn’t hard either.

I seriously recommend talking this out, anon. Communication is really important in this.

Best of luck!

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Using psychiatric medication doesn’t make you weak or unmotivated. It doesn’t mean that you are using it as a crutch (a phrase that is ableist, btw). It doesn’t mean you’re “co-dependent” on medication, whatever that’s supposed to mean. It means you have an illness, and are treating it in a way you see fit. And anyone who criticizes you for treating your illness in the way you choose, without harming anyone, can fuck off. 

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Hi folks!

Sorry for not being around much! I have now acquired the puppy - and he’s a whole lot of work, little sleep and lots of whining included.

I’ve answered a couple asks and have some more answers I started on in the drafts, but I gotta get back to taking care of the puppy. I’ll stop by soon again to keep answering asks. None of you is getting ignored, please don’t forget that.

Until then, have some puppy pictures.

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Anonymous: theres so much sadness and things ive been keeping to myself and i really think i need to tell someone and i know who im going to tell but i am very scared. this person is someone i look up to a lot and im scared that they will never look at me the same or be angry. i feel like im going to burst i cant take the weight of my feelings anymore. i need to tell someone.

Hey there anon. I’m glad to hear you’ve decided to talk to somebody!

I understand that you’re in a tough position now - telling somebody is a big step and being afraid of the outcome is completely normal.

Hopefully, this person will react well - try and help them understand by providing resources and, most importantly, let them know what you’d like them to do. Being open about your needs will help the other person figure out how to act in this situation and, hopefully, encourage them to respond well.

Unfortunately, some people will not react well, which can be terrible, especially if this is the first person you talk to. But, if that happens, please don’t give up. There are always, always other people that will react differently and try their best to support you. Just because one person doesn’t understand, doesn’t have to mean that you’re on your own now. You’re being very brave by talking about it already - sooner or later, it will pay off.

Best wishes, anon! I hope the person is really worth your admiring.

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Anonymous: im scared of driving i can drive with my brother just fine but when i drive with my dad and sister i feel like i want to die and i feel so anxious and im trying so hard not to cry. im scared ill never get my license im 18 and i still cant drive for shit. im too scared of everything and if i cant drive i might as well die.

Hey there, anon. I’m sorry this is stressing you out so much.

First of all, there’s nothing wrong with not driving. I’m 18, I can’t drive and I probably never will drive. It’s okay to not be able to drive (for whatever reasons) and/or not to want to drive. You can take your time with getting your license if that’s what you want or need. There is no rush.

Either way, if you really do want to keep driving, just try your best to avoid driving with your dad and sister. Ask your brother instead. If you can, try and think about why driving with them in particular scares you so much - there might be another, underlying issue at hand.

In addition, check out this ask I answered for resources concerning your anxiety.

I really hope things get better soon, anon. Best wishes.

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velvetlilylady replied to your post: Absence

Puppy pictures please!!

Here’s one from when I visited him a week ago - more to follow once he’s home tomorrow!

xshunin replied to your post: Absence

A puppy! Congratulations! A pet is like the best help you can ever get if you have mental disabilities!

Thank you! It really can help a lot, yes, though I imagine it also takes the right kind of person to work. Everybody has different needs after all :P

1 week ago - 11 notes - Reblog -

Hi folks! Just her to let y’all know that replies will be slow in the coming weeks.
I’ll be getting a puppy and he will probably be a lot of work. Between that and managing my disabilities, I’m unsure how much energy I’ll have to devote to this. I will still do my best to check the inbox and reply to anything I can, though!

Also, if y’all would like me to post some puppy pictures, let me know! The pup is an adorable dapple shorthair dachshund!

See ya soon, friends.

1 week ago - 5 notes - Reblog -
Anonymous: (1 of 2 again, sorry I write so much!) Hey Mink, this is the MOH anon. First of all, I just wanted to say thank you. Honestly, I think I really just needed to tell someone how I was feeling without having to worry about being judged for it. The links you posted in your reply were actually really helpful, now I have some ways to maybe deal with these panic attacks a little better if I continue to get them. So thank you, really and truly.

Also, thank you to the anon who also replied. I guess I really just worry that my friend ISN’T as good a friend as I want her to be. She hasn’t always been & though I forgave her a long time ago, I still don’t trust her as much as I used to. Then I went and blew up at my mom & assumed the worst and she is rightfully upset, but I’m worried I only did that because I didn’t want to (more realistically) assume the worst of my best friend. But you’re right, and it’s good advice. So thank you! :)

In reply to this and this.

Welcome back, anon! And don’t worry about how much you’re writing, I like asks of any length, hahah.

I’m glad to hear back from you and I’m glad you feel somewhat better. I really hope some of the coping strategies in the links I gave you end up working for you.

I hope your situation improves, anon! Best wishes from me, once again.

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