Anonymous: (1 of 2) I have pretty bad anxiety and also mild, chronic depression. I've been having a very anxiety-stricken week and, while I've always had very bad social anxiety especially, I'm not used to having actual panic attacks like I've been having (my anxiety just never manifested in that way), but I thought I'd been handling them pretty well.
However, today my best friend (who’s getting married on the 30th, I’m her MOH) called me & accused my mother of saying something very hurtful and offensive to her mother @ the bridal shower I threw her last weekend. I confronted my mother about it, & she denied it and got pissed at me for assuming she would’ve said anything which made me feel awful. That means my mother or my best friend is lying to me & I have no idea who to believe and I got home & had the most frightening panic attack. I just normally would call my friend & she would try to calm me down but since she is part of this I can’t. The worst part is I know she has lied to me before just to create drama between me & someone else & just thinking that she would be lying about it makes me so panicky bc she is one of the only friends I have & I’m afraid I might have another really bad attack again tonight bc I can’t stop thinking about it.
Hey there anon. I’ll do my best and try to help some.
I’m sorry you’re caught in the middle like this. It really doesn’t sound pleasant in the least.
First of all, the fact that you’re experiencing panic attacks probably means this is really pushing you far out of your comfort zone. If at all possible, once things blow over, try talking to your friend about situations like this so they can hopefully be avoided. You shouldn’t have to get triggered this badly.
Unfortunately I don’t have any concrete tips on how to deal with this situation, besides confronting your friend about it (which might not be an option for you in your current state). I’m sure things will be resolved eventually and you can find out what really happened. It could be that things were just a misunderstanding and/or miscommunication at some point.
If you can, try some of the things on this or this post to try coping with the situation and/or distracting yourself.
Followers, if you have any idea how to help this anon, please send in an ask or leave me a reply! I’m really a bit stumped in terms of directly applicable advice on this one.
I’m really sorry for not being able to help much, anon. I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and I hope your situation gets better soon. Best wishes!